Little Things You Can Do
When your life revolves around helping people, it takes many turns. You encounter situations of all kinds. Such is the stuff of life. The kind of help people in trouble or grief need can vary from financial to assistance with household jobs. It can be a matter of pride what they allow you to do for them. You have to break down their resistance; but you know it if for their own good. If they are a grieving family, they succumb to compassion eventually. It is what they need the most. In the throes of a loss, a family can fail to attend to normal matters. In other words, they just let things go. I remember a family who had lost a loved one and the house they lived in was badly in need of repair. They failed to attend to the simplest matters such as a broken kitchen cupboard latch, a frayed toaster cord, a leaky bathroom faucet, and broken chimney bricks. It all started to mount up and they expressed frustration to me that their living quarters was showing signs of wear and tear. It all seemed too much, like what more is going to happen around this old house.
I decided to take matters into my hands since theirs were full of responsibility already and they could hardly tackle any renovations. I asked a friend to help. Between the two of us we knocked out most of what was on their repair list in a day. As for the fireplace, I hired a professional from Finest Fires and oversaw the work being done. They didn’t even have to lift a finger since we had a competent professional.
People in need express it in different ways. They can be overt and spell it out or they can show psychological stress in general. Any little thing I can do to ease this anxiety is most welcome from my personal experience. I am often given grateful thank you gifts in return. In the case in question, the grieving family, I received a wonderful array of home baked goods. I could tell that it was given with great love. The lady of the house told me to share it all with my parishioners, which I did posthaste. I hope to continue helping people as word gets around that I am available. I want to encourage others to volunteer to assist me so we can reach each and every one in need. I bring my experience to this task as a grief counselor at a hospital and now as a pastor in Sioux City. It is a wonderful community and I am proud to contribute what I can. I know that there is a real need for people to reach out and connect with others in their grief. They need a safe and helpful place to come and share feelings and find materials on grieving to comfort them. If it also entails some household repair, so be it.